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Messed up things a doctor did to you or someone you know? / Bad experiences with doctors (lemmy.zip)

submitted 11 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Today I spoke to a coworker who had bad experiences with doctors and was seeking recommendations for a new one, then other coworkers chimed in, and so I decided to ask you guys as well. Well, not for a doctor recommendation, but about your bad experienced with doctors?

I'm gonna spoiler mine, because it makes me very uncomfortable, so perhaps it may make someone else very uncomfortable.

uncomfortable

I had a doctor who had no business in it make me show my intimate parts (I'm intersex) and she touched them. She was curious, I guess...? She's a psychiatrist, so, again, literally 0 business doing so. I already have trauma from regular people who treat me like a circus display, I really had no need for someone with systemic power over me using it like that...

No, I didn't report this. I was a teenager and barely functioning at the time. :/

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[–] [email protected] 15 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Jfc, I'm sorry that happened to you, how awful.

I've had all sorts of bad experiences, from one doctor looking down my top at my boobs without warning or permission, to the "normal" doubt dismissal and denial of anything being wrong with me despite much evidence to the contrary..

Doctors so often fucking suck, and I'm so sick of it being taboo to even say so. Medical school should include bringing them down a couple of pegs before they're ever allowed to even interact with patients.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I’m so sick of it being taboo to even say so.

YESSSS! And the worst is, they trust one another so the longer you suffer from an issue, the less seriously they treat it. I had a therapist who got diagnosed in her 30s with a life-long disease she always sought help for. She ended up movement impaired due to it proceeding with no treatment. Doctors called her a drug-seeker, school-skipper and so on. All she needed was to be treated seriously.

Really glad to had met you. It's really reassuring to see people who understand, as much as I wish you wouldn't understand as I'd prefer you would had never had experienced that.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 11 months ago

No matter how many stories like yours and your friends (which sounds very similar to mine) I hear, it never gets les enraging that we're just left to not only suffer at the time, but for the rest of our lives in many cases, because some doctor values their ego over their patients.

But yeah, it's always nice to find people who know what you've been through, even if both (all) wish they hadn't.. 💜