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Today I spoke to a coworker who had bad experiences with doctors and was seeking recommendations for a new one, then other coworkers chimed in, and so I decided to ask you guys as well. Well, not for a doctor recommendation, but about your bad experienced with doctors?

I'm gonna spoiler mine, because it makes me very uncomfortable, so perhaps it may make someone else very uncomfortable.

uncomfortableI had a doctor who had no business in it make me show my intimate parts (I'm intersex) and she touched them. She was curious, I guess...? She's a psychiatrist, so, again, literally 0 business doing so. I already have trauma from regular people who treat me like a circus display, I really had no need for someone with systemic power over me using it like that...

No, I didn't report this. I was a teenager and barely functioning at the time. :/

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[โ€“] [email protected] 30 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

My wife, going through peri-menopause, was told (after reporting extremely low energy, increased migraines, and low libido) by her doctor that he wasn't comfortable doing any hormonal supplements until a year after menopause was confirmed finished. That could potentially be up to a decade later.

Women's health comprehension is fucking embarrassing... if you were AFAB and have any sort of hormonal or abdominal issues, please see a fucking specialist immediately. Most GPs/Family Doctors are absolutely fucking clueless.

[โ€“] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago

If you can, try to get in and see an endocrinologist. They specialize in hormones and their effects on the body.

I saw one with my partner for her specific issues and it's made a big difference in quality of care. For one, the endo actually listens to her and works with us to find the problem. Experiences may differ but a specialist is the right path, if you're able to see one. Hope you get a chance to - it took us months to get an appointment with one near us, but it's been worth it so far.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

The fact thar your wife went to a GP instead of going directly to a women health doctor is an interesting choice to me as a german.
Afaik (am male) women go for everything related to down there and related to the specialised women doctor. GP is for and to treat general illnesses like a cold, vaccination shots, health questions or to transfer to another specialist like cardiologist, neurology, etc. so you can get an appointment.

[โ€“] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

then the correct answer from the Dr should've been a referral to a gyno, not "that shouldn't be treated yet in my medical opinion".

and she may not have realized it was perimenopause when she went to the Dr. fatigue and migraines alone could easily sap libido and be completely unrelated to anything "down there".

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Totally agreed. Should have been referred.
But I'm no doctor and didn'e experience the whole story.