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I never understood any of it, should I just say I’m straight and express my support for the community without saying I’m queer? (lemmings.world)

submitted 5 days ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I never understood any of it.

I always considered myself bi and not caring about the gender of the person. But there’s a problem I noticed. Women just don’t attract me.

Men, yeah, for sure. I like almost everything about them, except for how confusing they can be at times. It feels natural to me, like I just like men. I don’t think too much about my attraction towards men due to it feeling natural. It’s also “standard”. I won’t be judged for liking men.

Women, not so much. They’re pretty, but I don’t find them attractive. I’d date one and don’t care about the gender if I meet the right one, but none of them have been the right one.

I don’t like women. I don’t find women interesting sexually or romantically, just as friends. Not only does it not feel natural, but it also doesn’t sit quite right with me. I’ve tried everything. Seeing women in a romantic & sexual light. Watching and reading romance/sexy books about women. Only men do it for me, so I don’t look at romantic content with just women/focusing on women.

Even if it’s hetero romance or sex, I would ignore the woman completely and be interested in just the hot guy. Women are flat-out uninteresting. A man also has to be the main character if I watch or read the story.

All of this seems to go against the definition of both bisexuality and biromanticism and more under the hetero umbrella, like Kinsey 1 maybe. In fact, this is probably why I don’t understand being sapphic nor have many lesbian friends, as I want straight or bi women to talk about guys with, not a lesbian who doesn’t know anything about that.

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 5 days ago

Yes, nothing you say here describes same-gender attraction. Why want to date people you don’t like that way?

I’d understand if it were the other way around and you were a lesbian convincing yourself that you want to date guys but straight people are already accepted by everyone, there’s nothing to worry about and while you can support us, you’ll not only subject yourself to discrimination by saying you’re bi but also seems weird, as if it’s for aesthetic purposes.