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There's hopefully some context you're leaving out for the sake of privacy or something, but... Why would your ex consider a move to Europe for your work? I wouldn't even expect my wife to be 100% on board with uprooting her entire life to move halfway across the world.
I dont think they're saying they expect her to. They appear to just be describing what's happening.
As to why, probably custody arrangements and anti-kidnapping laws and treaties.
It's the custody agreement part that I'm wrestling with, though I'm sure if I just ran off with the kids I'd hit kidnapping and Interpol issues too. That'd be exciting, though unlikely to be a productive outcome all around.
Ah, there's a bit of miscommunication. My ex wouldn't move with us in this situation.
Though, in this case, my wife is 100% on board. She and I have wanted to make this kind of move for a while, so I've got full support on that side of things. I wouldnt have even begun any applications without her total but in.
I see. But the custody part is kind of part of the game when having children, as and she's fully entitled with not being interested in having her children move abroad. Your previous comment kind of painted her as being inconsiderate and stifling her children's dreams. I'm curious as to why you even began applications without her buy in as well. She's not your wife anymore, but she's still the mother of the children.