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You're missing a critical distinction.
People can not care about (topic), while caring a lot about (disruptive discussion of (topic)).
The two aren't mutually exclusive.
It's like I don't have a particular opinion about cornflakes, but if you keep waving a box of them in people's face and hitting them with it, then i'mma ask you to stop.
It can be annoying to have to deal with someone going into excessive detail, making inappropriately-fine distinctions, or taking a strong position on one side or other of an argument that nobody's making - since in all of those cases, nobody is willing or able to engage with the topic, and it's just taking up conversation-space with (effectively) a monologue that they find boring and exhausting.
If someone says 'hey look at that funny-shaped tree' because it looks like something else, it's usually worth a 'heh' in the moment and you move on.
If you start going into great detail of whether or not it actually counts as a tree, or just infodumping neat tree facts, or start ranting about which genus it properly belongs to despite what some people think.... then someone will shut you down with 'Dude. No one cares'.
What if the tree looked exactly like your face and you failed to recognise it so I obsessively photographed it from all angles & made you gaze at the photos until you agreed with me and said "Huh. Something's up with that".?