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Did social media made people unable to properly chat? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 20 hours ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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You find someone interesting on Instagram (or Tinder/happn/Bumble if they left their IG handle there), though their profile is restricted. You add that person, which accepts you, sometimes after two or three months. You leave a private message to that person, thanking it for accepting you as a follower, and asking if it wants to talk. Then, silence. Or worse yet, exchanges a few phrases and then ghosts you out of nowhere, without explanation or if you didn't said anything rude.

I mean, no one owes anyone anything in a situation like that, of course, but why bother opening a pathway in the first place, instead of just refusing? And if you find that other not really interesting after some conversation, though not really creepy or weird or over-the-top, why not be polite and say "look, this is not going to work, I don't want to talk to you anymore" or "this thing you said is a red flag for me, bye, take care"?

What bothers me is like, don't we talk anymore like normal people are supposed to? Have personal connections become so disposable like that? Or am I just freaking out and perhaps just need to find out somewhere in the real world where I could bond more easily with real people?

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 19 hours ago* (last edited 18 hours ago)

Maybe.

But schools also don't let kids socialize except maybe during lunchtime. So smartphones and social media definitely doesn't help. Its not really just "social media" to blame. I mean, with stuff like video games, why even hangout with classmates outside of school for fun, when you can just play videogames instead?

If you are outside, and aren't with someone, and also aren't on your phone, you just look "out of place" so what you see is people are constantly on their phone when they are out and about and by themselves, because otherwise it make them look "weird", ya know what I mean. If the social expectation is to just be on your phone, then its really weird to talk to strangers when they are on their phone.

So this is why we live in a society where people don't talk to each other anymore.