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submitted 1 day ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Met a 22 yo in a group I am involved in, she asked if I wanted a lift to a meeting, there and back. I don't know her very well but she's young a lot younger than me by 10years.

So talking on the way back she mentions antidepressants, I too take anti depressants, the conversation moves towards SSRIs and sex. I panic because that shit makes me supper uncomfortable, she said some stuff that was a blatant hint. Anyway me and her have activity later in the week for the group we're in, she's invited me out for a drink after and being friendly and uncomfortable I said yea sure.

How best to proceed? I don't want things to be weird and our group get weird as a result. I wish I could set boundaries.

Worth mentioning I have crazy anxiety so don't judge too hard I mostly run on auto pilot in those situations.

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 21 hours ago (2 children)

Please feel free to tell me you don't feel comfortable discussing the subject, since you already mentioned it makes you super uncomfortable and I apologize because I don't mean to do that, or maybe someone else can answer it but what's the connection there between SSRIs and sex?

I've never been on antidepressants or SSRIs so I have no idea. Does it amplify the experience or something?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 hours ago

God no. Quite the opposite. SSRIs tend to seriously blunt sexual response. The most common effect is sharply delayed orgasms, but it can cause near total anorgasmia, and/or difficultly with sexual arousal at all. Sexual dysfunction and weight gain are the two most common side effects of SSRIs.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 19 hours ago* (last edited 19 hours ago) (1 children)

SSRIs have been known to decrease libido in some, sometimes severely, even after discontinuing the medication

[–] [email protected] 2 points 19 hours ago

Thanks! That's what I expected but makes the interaction make less sense to me.