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I have said yes to a date by mistake. (lemm.ee)

submitted 1 day ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Met a 22 yo in a group I am involved in, she asked if I wanted a lift to a meeting, there and back. I don't know her very well but she's young a lot younger than me by 10years.

So talking on the way back she mentions antidepressants, I too take anti depressants, the conversation moves towards SSRIs and sex. I panic because that shit makes me supper uncomfortable, she said some stuff that was a blatant hint. Anyway me and her have activity later in the week for the group we're in, she's invited me out for a drink after and being friendly and uncomfortable I said yea sure.

How best to proceed? I don't want things to be weird and our group get weird as a result. I wish I could set boundaries.

Worth mentioning I have crazy anxiety so don't judge too hard I mostly run on auto pilot in those situations.

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[–] [email protected] -5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Flip the genders and say that again

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I don't see why flipping the genders makes that more obviously wrong.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

It doesn't, but some people need that perspective. In some parts of society, men are treated as beings who always want sex regardless of any circumstance, regardless of whether it's true or not.

Just imagine middle school idiology extended to adulthood

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I can see that, but surely it still comes across as worse with the man being older and the woman younger?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 23 hours ago

Yeah, that's yet another societal woe unfortunately