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I've noticed most answers are from men; I'm a woman, so perhaps if you are a hetero guy my perspective is useful.
Your photo doesn't matter more than your bio, it matters just as much, but it will go first in the order of judgement so make sure you have something presentable.
Now for the bio, you are short on words. Pick a few things that really define your character and that you consider your match must be ok with. So if you like metal and rock just say that, don't waste precious space on all your bands unless you are really, really really into these bands in particular. If you are a harcore fan of rick and Morty, sure include it, otherwise just say you like animation or sci fi.
Same goes for books and movies. If there is an author you are an absolute fan, mention it, otherwise go for a couple genres you are into.
I would start with saying you're a (career here) student. Saying what you study is useful, it states interests and it's an easy conversation starter.
Then if you have a quirk or two mention them. They are good conversation starters too. I don't know, maybe you are one of those people who have the soapy cilantro gene but they still like cilantro or maybe you are particularly skilled at something.
Happy to give further feedback. Good luck out there
I'm a woman and I liked this advice.
My tip: This might sound obvious but I'd have you wear a bright color, like red, in the first photo in your profile. It will catch the eye and stand out a bit. This is not my original thought - I got it from someone who was describing her experience on dating apps and what worked best for her. You want to catch someone's eye while they are swiping quickly through pictures.
Even if that red shirt is the uniform from Star Trek?
... asking for a friend.