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Not all older people are sexually attracted to other older people. A 70-year-old friend of mine confessed that he's sad and frustrated because any woman he is attracted to is way too young for him. (He's not a creep who would actually bother younger women.)
I worry about this myself. I'm still young enough that I think women my own age are attractive, but to be honest I can't imagine being attracted to a retirement-aged woman unless she is one of those celebrities who have a hidden painting that ages instead of them.
People aren’t aging as poorly as they used too. Also, outpatient cosmetic treatments and surgery a lot more accessible then they used to be. I wouldn’t worry about it too much as long as you also keep up your appearances.
Sounds like unresolved identity issues. He should talk to a therapist.
I don't think so. Dial it back to us being mammals, and just like any other animal, we have peak sexual periods in our lifespans, based around promotion of survival. It is unusual to be sexually attracted to something that opposes survival instincts. I can only assume, but with fair confidence, that very few creatures, if any, have sexual attraction to something where survival of offspring is compromised or even possible. Obviously age is a huge one.
This is sexual attraction at its core. Instincts that promote genetics and survival. Let's not try to think we're better than all the other animals by suggesting intincts may be a mental problem. Not being attracted may be harsh, but it's normal in nature.
Nah. And gross rationalization.
As an elder Millennial, I have zero interest in someone half my age. Or younger. Which, by your pseudo-intellectual stretching-to-fit analysis, is not a problem, and some 50 year old man is only fulfilling his natural-born instincts by chasing a 23 year old's fecund womb.
Emotional intelligence and availability, shared experiences, and common ground are also factors in potential mates. Add societal factors like education, financial stability, and you're basically cutting out everyone under 30, given typical academic and professional advancement. Are you saying a 35 year old woman is no longer a viable sexual partner? Because that would be laughable. And sad, for you.
If you wanted to be more archetypal, then fertile figures will look more like a woman in a Botero painting, or Venus of Willendorf.
Note that I'm the original commenter rather than the one you're replying to. I don't want to talk about fertility but I do have a few questions for you.
I think you and I are about the same age. What do you mean by "interest" here?
Those sound like your criteria for long-term compatibility rather than your criteria for sexual attraction. I think they are different things. I have met people who would have been great long-term relationship partners if not for the fact that I was not attracted to them. I have also met people I was very attracted to who turned out to be terrible partners.
Some people (usually women) say that someone who wasn't initially attractive to them became attractive once they learned what a good person he was. I was taught that judging people based on their appearance was shallow and wrong, so I tried very hard to make relationships with good people I wasn't attracted to work. They never did. They were doomed from the start and there would have been less pain for everyone if I had been honest with myself immediately rather than pretending that my initial lack of attraction didn't matter or that it could change with time.
My pseudo-intellectual what?
I'm talking Darwinism and your retort is personal experiences in your immediate single-generational society, letting us all know what you are and aren't into in a partner.
Literally, the topic is physical sexual attraction. Read OC. Unless you're living life seeing grannies and thinking, "I really want to get to know them in case my pee-pee go boing-boing to their emotional intelligence and financial stability" I don't think you're immune to the same ~~nature~~ pseudo-intelligence as what's being discussed.
There's two types of elder Millennials, as there are all the other generations; those that jerk off to college porn and liars.