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What role does validation play in one's mental health, and what are the pros and cons of social media in this respect? (lemmy.world)

submitted 1 month ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Just a mild passing thought and curiosity to mull over

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Validation is their way of figuring out that they're "normal" or a good human being.

They're afraid of being an outcast + they're anxious that they can't take care of themselves
They don't know what is "right", so they rely on others to tell them that what you're doing is "right"

Social media crowdsources the feedback that you did this right, you did this wrong, etc

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 month ago (2 children)

This is so simple but put so well. Seeking validation is a perfectly normal human behaviour we need to normalize. Especially in the west where talking shit behind people's backs is so normalized nobody ever knows what anyone really thinks of them.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

I take it one step further in tangent. Anyone that complains to you about everyone else, is complaining about you when they are talking to anyone else. It is their form of social bonding, or just a lack of any self awareness filter. These types of people are not your friends. They are not bad people, but they can give an impression of comradery that is only an illusion.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Massive agree. If anyone here is one of those whipper snapper youngsters with their iPhones avocados, put down the Fortnite dab and the Ohio rizz because this man speaks da tru-tru and it'll help you the most in the workday.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago

Thanks! I'm validated by your response.