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That sounds simple enough for me to remember! Focusing on being a better listener is what I should be working on.
But what if there are no immediate things to talk about? What if the conversation falls flat? Do you have a 3 strikes rule before you walk away from the interaction?
Maybe I’m getting too much in my head about things. Thanks for the reassurance 😊 This community always makes me feel more secure with some of my inner concerns about socializing and my perception in the eyes of others.
"Comfortable silence" is a thing.
And walking away is always an option. "I'm gonna see who else is here," or "I'm going to get a drink/some fresh air" or "good talk." are acceptable ways of ending a chat
Agreed, however I recommended against "good talk", personally.
No one has ever said that to me after having what might actually be considered a "good" talk. I find it's usually only said by someone who has tried to start a conversation and I have failed to effectively reciprocate.
@y0kai @Dagwood222 Seconded on that one, it's definitely more used with a negative/sarcastic connotation
Whatever works.
It might help to have some examples. Are you a student talking to other students? An office worker talking to colleagues? An attempt to converse with (say) a busy clerk at a store is less likely to go well than a casual chat with someone who is also waiting in line.
And sometimes there’s genuinely nothing to talk about, and recognizing that is a useful skill.
If someone doesn't want to talk, that is ok. However, people are more likely to talk if they feel listened to.
I also have this worry constantly, but i've learned that there are different sorts of silences. just because it's silent doesn't mean it's awkward. most people don't care if you mess up in casual conversation.