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I'm gay.

My dad is not pleased with this fact. Completely homophobic.

Half the time his homophobia doesn't even make sense.

>Fishing show on TV in the living room
>Watching it with mom and dad
>Mom: "I don't have the patience for that kind of stuff
>Me: "It doesn't feel like too long when you're out there"
>Dad: "Time flies when you're a removed."
>Go to my room

It's getting ridiculous. He goes out of his way to respond to everything I do by calling me a removed.

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[–] [email protected] 187 points 1 year ago (12 children)

Exactly why I never came out to my parents. I think they knew, since my stepfather would semi regularly tell me that if I came out as gay he would kick me out of the house.

Jokes on him, he's dead now and I'm still bisexual.

[–] [email protected] 92 points 1 year ago (4 children)

He didn’t say he’d kick you out for coming out as Bi though. Legal loophole.

[–] [email protected] 55 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I was given a very specific (but non-inclusive) list of people I was not allowed to bring home. That included any and all women, naturally, but also included any and all men of any colour darker than germanic-european-white, and indeed any men of a religion other than young-earth-creationists.

Breaking any of these rules while still living in the house would have meant my expulsion from the house. I'd like to say my mom wouldn't have allowed him to kick me out but I really don't know.

[–] [email protected] 24 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

Always found it offputting how often I hear about people's step parents being somehow worse than their biological parent, and their biological parent being totally cool with it.

Not saying that's your situation. Just something I thought about. Like my friend growing up had a cool mom and dad, but his step dad was the biggest asshole ever. And his mom was totally cool with it. Guy tried to break my ps3 cause we were playing COD and he had an unspoken rule of no M rated games in the house. And all the times he called me homophobic slurs, even though I'm not gay. His mom was great though, so it made no sense.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago

Kinda surprised by my stepmom being more trans-friendly than my mom. Like my stepmom is more overtly racist. Both of them are lesbians so no issues with homophobia at least.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago

Well the man is the head of the house, you see. So what he says goes. Even if what he says involves lifetime psychological damage!

To be somewhat fair to my mother, most of the worst stuff he ever said to me was when she wasn't around. To this day I don't know if she knew a lot of it. At the time he assured me that was he said came from both of them, and since I'd never seen her stand up to him for us, I had no reason to doubt it.

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