I recently noticed a post from a blahaj user whose profile was styled after Celeste from Madeleine. She does trans stuff and posts quite a bit, including to a sub¹ called "femcelmemes".
I've seem the word more than a few times in the past year, and I thought it meant "female incel".²
However, the sub in question just seems to post girly stuff and be accepting to all feminine energents "where anybody can post memes that fit the vibe." So what the hell is this vibe? I don't see any incel-adjacent stuff except maybe some facetious self-deprecation, but do you have to get incel vibes to do that?
¹ Until we can truly standardize what we call them: magazines, communities (Lemmy, please pick a better name. This is too vague.), forums, hashtags, etc..., I'm calling them something we can all understand.
² Thinking about the etymology of "incel", "femcel" should actually be "female celibate", but who in the sam hill cares.
Femcel is indeed usually the same as incel, but with vaginas. But there's always mudiness around slang terms, even more than formalized terms.
Also, there is a standard for lemmy. They're communities, or (for the lazy like me, C/s), it's just that reddit exodus people tend to be too lazy to use the standard term.
There's a reason that every community url includes the c/ as part of it. That's how standardized it is, it's in the basic underpinning of lemmy. The choice of c/ wasn't arbitrary. Well, that's what one of the devs said (though not as a quote, I'm paraphrasing) back last year (iirc, could have been before that, I did lurk some on lemmy before the reddit fiasco).
Magazine was used guy kbin, and then mbin, which are similar federated platforms.
We all understand communities, it's only the folks that haven't caught up yet, or haven't paid attention that don't understand.
Ironic given that the term "incel" was originally coined by a woman in reference to herself.