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Neurotypical here, had a realization about my 'type' of romantic interest. (lemmy.world)
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Cishet male. In no way do I mean offense or have I tried to take advantage of lower functioning individuals, that's just sick. Best I can figure, I'm a typical. Maybe I'm a little crazy; but who isn't.

During a discussion about my son's neurodivergency, I realized I have a 'type' of woman. (Son is technically stepson, but he's my boy.) I tend to be attracted to high functioning women that are on the spectrum.

I've been in four relationships with divergent women, three serious and two extended friends with benefits. I've been in two serious relationships with typical women. Many flings with typical women. Figure that's pretty statistically unlikely.

In my experience, divergent women tend to have a refreshing openness in communication. Painfully honest. Direct. They have some weird stuff that can be alternately cute and irritating. When sleeping they either don't like to snuggle or like being an octopus. (My preference is octopus but my wife only tolerates some side contact.) They like to discuss instead of argue. Sexually adventurous and willing to work for satisfaction. They prefer precision in statements. I find myself writing in an extended way that I don't engage in with other people and try and pay attention to grammar and punctuation. Pretty sure this doesn't apply to all women on the spectrum, just my 'type'.

I dunno, just a strange realization, especially at this stage of life. It's not a fetish, just something that has occurred.

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[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Birds of a feather, flock together - just saying'! Esp cause I snuck a pickie-wickie at your bits. a) Sorry you're in chronic pain. That fucking sucks. I too am in chronic pain. It fucking sucks. Some days are "better" than others but no days are like they used to be. You just pray for the goodun's b) You might just also have a type (and it sounds like you do) and you probably could find this type in any kind of person you just so happen to keep finding it in neurodivergent individuals. So I think it might be a bias.

But it sounds like you might have something going on, especially because you type like me. And I am a fucking AuDHD queen. So you know, have a think on it.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 3 months ago

Life is pain. I can do anything I used to do, although sometimes I can only do it once. Better than being dead.

I'm of above average intelligence, largely self educated. Very redneck/country so it affects the way I write and speak. My writing and speech are very different from each other. I have people be shocked when speaking to me for the first time after corresponding, especially in business settings. Non-southern people often have trouble understanding me unless I slow down and enunciate more. I also speak in colloquialisms a lot. It was the way I learned to speak growing up. I frequently mispronounce words because I've only ever read them.

I might have a touch of the ADHD, but tend to be the life of the party, comfortable in a lot of casual social situations. I'm comfortable meeting new people and getting them friendly quickly. I'm good at finding common ground and getting others to talk about their interests. Non of these behaviors seem to be particularly on the spectrum.

Like I said, I'm probably a little crazy, had a crazy life. However, I'm not on the spectrum as far as I can tell. My experiences with spectrum women could totally be coincidence but I don't think it's statistically likely.