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[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Theres a lot of us who are this way because we've had to deal with the fallout of the damage those with addictions problems have. It's not black and white, I've gone through a similarly fucked up life as my family members who fell into addiction

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

My comment has nothing to do with the damages caused by addicts to those around them. You’re right, it’s not black and white, and that’s one of the major issues about addiction vs the people who can’t/wont understand it from the outside. “All you have to do is…” is a cry of frustration and maybe even a defense against the damage caused by the addict. Yeah, they did the damage, no getting around that, and that’s a personal issue that I’m in no way qualified to make suggestions as to how to mend - if at all.

I’m absolutely not trying to detract from or minimize what you experienced, but neither can I offer an exception in your case that it changes how addiction works, and also I am in no way trying to be an apologist for the addict. It’s a shit situation. If it were easy we wouldn’t be having this conversation.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Fair enough, I can agree with pretty much everything you've said here tbh

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Hope things work out for you eventually and don't remain unsettled. Sounds like you had some shit to deal with.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

Eh, its in the past. The fact that I distrust addicts now doesnt impact my ability to empathize, it just means I personally wont be the one helping them. Thank you for your own empathy though

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 months ago

Fwiw you’re probably right about trusting addicts, they have to fix themselves first.