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Many people get annoyed that I often give vague answers. If I over explain myself, they'll twist my words into a new meaning. I'm confused :D
Yep! Don't forget, asking questions for clarity doesn't exist, questions are for attacking! Any questions you ask are because you're trying to subtly harass the person.
/s
Nah, NTs ask each other clarifying questions all the time. You just have to use the right tone and not any of the 100s of wrong tones. No, I can't explain or describe the tone, you just have to know it.
I feel very silly for not realizing it could be my tone-deafedness making it hard to ask questions.
I only have the one tone and it's apparently the wrong one....
Fuck this happens so often, I ask a question and the person gets all defensive and then I need to explain I literally meant nothing just wanted to know the answer.
Ooo, I'm not so sure about that. It's kind of a negative expectation that could guide the direction of your conversations without you realizing it.
What do you mean negative expectation?
Assuming that people ask questions only to attack can lead to a negative bias in conversations. It's essential to recognize that someone seeking clarification may not intend hostility. ๐๐
I'm sorry I should put an /s at the end of that comment... That was meant to be sarcasm (hence the exclamations).
Haha of course. I'm surprised autism threads aren't full of more people misunderstanding stuff.
This happens to me all the time. Which is why I don't care about conversations much anymore.