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Couples, what secret language do you use to tell each other details that the company you're in doesn't understand or notice? (lemm.ee)

submitted 1 year ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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What words, phrases or signs do you use and how do you get your partner's attention?

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[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I've taught my husband to speak a bit of Japanese, but we don't use it this way because that's extremely rude.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I wouldn't say we speak in people's faces, but we make comments to each other about random stuff. I would never say something rude about somebody in their faces, but my spouse might go, "Can we go back to the hotel, I really need to take a shit" or something silly and unfiltered like that.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I get it, I just still think it's rude and avoid doing so myself.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

It's rude for spouses to have a private conversation? Would whispering be better? Would it be better if they hid in a cupboard where no one could see them?

[–] [email protected] -1 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Yes, it's generally considered rude to switch languages specifically to hide your conversation.

It's because most will assume you are doing it to talk shit.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Sure, if people suddenly switched languages and then laughed in my face, I would feel bad.

But if it's like the other comments in this post, and it's a couple having a quick word about a private matter, I wouldn't mind. It's not like I should be a part of that conversation

[–] [email protected] -1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Which they are.

Agree, it's rude af.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 months ago

Tell me you're insecure without saying you're insecure.