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[โ€“] [email protected] 5 points 4 months ago

Who cares if it's okay, that's subjective. I have limited clock cycles, attention span, and I have to prioritize what I'm going to expend energy on. I don't have time to get to know every person I encounter. I've got people and things in my life that matter to me, if I see you and you've got face tattoos I'm judging, cry about it. If I have a reason to get to know you maybe I'll be pleasantly surprised. I doubt it. I've got a life to live, pattern recognition is a core part of my nature as a creature that I'm evolved to have, I'm gonna make use of that strength. Maybe if you don't want to be judged as a scumbag don't deliberately express mutable scumbag traits. Even if I'm wrong about someone I won't regret it, it's highly unlikely that if I were more open minded that their presence would've enriched my life and they would've become my best friend. It's a cost benefit analysis. the likelihood that someone who deliberately expresses scumbag behavior wouldn't behave like a scumbag is below 50%, and where I am wrong, they don't need me to love them, they have people in their lives that know them and love them and why would they want to hang around a judgmental asshole anyway? Nobody really loses anything.