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Vibe check: What are your impressions and experiences of Lemmy, Kbin, Mbin, and Beehaw? (kbin.run)

submitted 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Exactly what the title says.

What has your experience been on any of those platforms? Which captures more of your time? Why?

I'm relatively new here but I've read a little on the reddit-like platforms. I (mostly) understand what's a fork of what or what some of the technical differences are, but I'm curious about the vibes and communities.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 children)

All i'm trying to say is them defederating from lemmygrad tells you everything about that instance that you need to know. Hexbear I get, but grad holds themselves up to a way higher standard of comment quality and there was zero reason to defederate outside political. They literally only blocked the instance because they were communists who aren't afraid to calmly debunk fascist propaganda with sources, and that's an experience corroborated by literally anyone who has had the displeasure of interacting with their polite-fascist administration.

EDIT: the example you provided is not only completely useless as it guts the original intent of the message but is STILL too offensive for them, as bringing up fascism is already "killing the mood" more than enough for them to remove. Not only that they would accuse you of calling the OP a Nazi which is another way they can shut you down. Believe me I've dealt with liberal fascists my whole life i've heard it all.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 6 months ago (1 children)

I think they wanted to see people giving others the benefit of the doubt, instead of making snap judgments. It’s very easy to get into heated arguments online that could be avoided with simple clarification and communication.

If someone is simply bad at expressing themselves, the extra “room” can make all the difference in the world. If they really are a jerk, though, all you’re doing is giving them enough rope to hang themselves. Win/win!

Then again, you’re talking to someone who hasn’t visited Beehaw in almost a year. I don’t know how their moderation has changed.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 months ago (1 children)

You can make all the vague guesses you want, I've lived the experience and can say flat out the instance uses respectability politics to shut out criticism. Like it's clear as day to anyone on the receiving end of that what they're about.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 6 months ago

Thanks for adding the messages the mods banned you for.