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How do you feel confident in the workplace? (lemmy.dbzer0.com)

submitted 6 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I was a student for many years (5 years of undergrad, 2.5 years of grad school), and I became very comfortable with always being able to look at the syllabus and my grade and know what I needed to do and how well I was performing. Work isn’t like that. Like I think is normal, I get a performance review once a year. I find this unsettling, because even though I come in and do decent work, I still often feel like I’m doing something “wrong” and worry that I’m secretly on the cusp of being fired. Folks who have maybe been working for longer than I have, how do you feel and stay confident in your work?

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[–] [email protected] 15 points 6 months ago (1 children)

I've been a carpenter since I was 18 and a finish carpenter since i was 30. I'll be 52 this year. So I've been doing this for 34 years. By all regards, I'm an expert in my field. My work has been on magazine covers, my work has won awards for architects and designers. I'm known by name by top builders and firms in my area. I now run jobs as a superintendent and/or project manager. I get calls to come work for other companies on the regular.

I still have zero idea why. Like, I just tell people what to do in an order that makes sense. And before that, I beat nails into wood. It wasn't till about 3 or 4 years ago when my wife took me aside and explained to my face that, yeah, I'm really good at my job that I started to realize that, yeah, I'm pretty good at my job. But everyday, driving in, I'm still just a kid that's in over his head. I don't feel confident at work. I know on one level I'm doing OK, I mean I must be, right? But I just come in and do my best and hope it's good enough. Turns out, that it usualy is good enough.

And I can tell you this. Anyone that walks around super confident in their work, usually sucks at their job. I've seen dozens of people claim that they're the best around, only to get axed or laid off as soon as possible. Don't bother being confident in your work, be confident that you're doing the best that you can do and be confident that you have the ability to keep learning.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 children)

Anyone that walks around super confident in their work, usually sucks at their job.

I make it a genuine rule that anyone who has to go out of their way to tell me how great they are, is not someone I am going to believe. Especially if it's the first thing out of their mouth.

If it's mentioned casually after X amount of months of working with them, then I'll stop and take notice

[–] [email protected] 5 points 6 months ago (1 children)

I think the bigger factor is, someone who already thinks they're great probably isn't working on noticing and improving their weaknesses. Someone who thinks they still have a lot to learn is putting a lot of effort into improving.

So, especially if they've felt that way for any significant length of time, it's no wonder which person will end up being better.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 months ago

It's this exactly. The minute you stop learning, or think you know it all, is the minute you start declining. There is always something new to learn, some new innovation, a new system or procedure. I believe this is true for absolutely everything. I think it's why older generations get bitchy about "these kids today" too. Shit changes and people stagnate because they know it all already.

But just keep a clear head, know that life is dynamic and try to find the joy in the process of getting better, don't get hung up on the goal of doing it perfect or being the best. Anyone of value will recognize your effort to simply improve.