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Sort of? I went to school after having my first two kids and have mostly been able to do work I like ok for companies I don't consider evil. So that's been good. Had lots of kids, I enjoyed that overall and they seem to be growing into good adults. Left my ex eventually when he got physically abusive (he was a chill stoner for 15 years who got unemployed then radicalized on the internet). In a good relationship now and we both have good jobs.
Honestly I think luck plays a large part in anybody's results but the things I think helped me were:
Waiting until I was older to finish school so I knew better what I might like as a job.
Having children (obviously this is a YMMV thing but for me it's been way more good than bad).
Trying not to overwork, but work at a sustainable pace that doesn't burn me out. Keeping boundaries, taking PTO, not worrying about moving up some ladder, want good work and good pay and that's all.