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How to meet people (lemmy.world)

submitted 10 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I'm 41F. I was married but separated 8 years ago. I was still young but was very traumatized and never really wanted another relationship. Lately I've been feeling a little lonely and would like to meet some new people but I moved and don't have many friends here and the ones I have are younger and do younger people things (like going out at night. I'm too old for that lol). I wanted to meet some people my age, friends or dates, but almost everyone is married. I do cooking and French classes but again, only young people do that and I'm the "odd old lady". I think people past 40 don't really have hobbies or money to spend on them. I'm overweight so I can't really use apps, and to be honest don't really want. So how a single woman without kids (can't have it) meet people?! Or do I just give up?! lol

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[–] [email protected] 47 points 10 months ago (2 children)

Organize a local Lemmy meetup for 40+ year olds! Lol

I am in my mid 40s myself. I think the default advice is to just find social hobby groups and meet people that way. The more you put yourself out there, the more chance you have to make a connection. Also, I don’t think it’s a problem to be the “odd old lady” - wear that badge with pride IMO.

[–] [email protected] 34 points 10 months ago (1 children)

my gay friend group would do ANYTHING for an odd old lady

[–] [email protected] 29 points 10 months ago

You know what, I could use some self esteem classes from a gay friend group!

[–] [email protected] 12 points 10 months ago (2 children)

I would love but I'm not in america and people here don't really know about it :/ ... yet lol

[–] [email protected] 3 points 10 months ago

I hope Lemmy is going to get a wider recognition with time. Wish you all the best 🙏

[–] [email protected] 1 points 10 months ago

Where are you from?