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What's a song that really expresses or imparts a skill or important truth to internalize (lemmy.world)

submitted 10 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Little Black Sandals - Sia

Boundaries. To me, the little black sandals represent boundaries or the abillity to recognize and extricate yourself from whatever you consciously+unconsciously feel is dangerous and unsafe for you

The line where he says he'll let go only if only she explicitly asks it is the exact opposite of how it should be, where the default is no and inviting people to opt-in to that which may be triggering.

I like that tea analogy where boundaries is as simple as whether or not you'd like a cup of tea. Invite and have consent before you use it up for someone who doesn't want or cannot accept it

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 10 months ago

Safety Dance by Men Without Hats feels a bit like low-hanging fruit, but I think it fits quite well. Whether it is dancing or really any sort of expression, you ought to do it if you desire to regardless of how others may feel. And if your friends constantly constrain themselves based on the judgements (or fear of judgement) of others, that isn't going make them new friends either. I wish I danced more when I was a kid. But I dance now.