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Hi, I am 19M. I always feel horny around beautiful girl. However I don't like it because it makes me uncomfortable around them.

How do you control yourself in that situation?

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[โ€“] [email protected] 33 points 10 months ago (1 children)

You are young, and that is normal.

My advice is to remind yourself that girls are people, too. If I focus on the fact that I'm talking to a person, and I ignore the fact that that person is a girl, then I find that I act more normally around them. I think the girls appreciate that, too, since if you act uncomfortable, then they will feel uncomfortable too.

[โ€“] [email protected] 9 points 10 months ago

It's important for relationships to treat each other as a person first. Later on it's important to treat someone like a person when it's appropriate and an object only when they want to. It's a hard skill to do especially when young and horny