Public invitation to be my friend: I'd like to join somebody's online game server. I don't care too much what game it is. I can do MMOs. Talk more on your preferred platform?
EDIT: I can host, too
this post was submitted on 06 Nov 2024
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To extend what others have said, your "social battery" depletes when you play a persona/mask. Sometimes with neurodivergent people (autistic/ADHD especially) this mask can be completely subconscious and unknown to the person.. it's pretty tricky to learn how to reverse it.
In either case, learning how to be your authentic self without shame is all the fix. Of course this may not be possible depending on environment but it's something to work towards.
I had the "social battery" issue until I learned how to be me. Sadly, most of the people I knew were acquainted with the masked me, so those friends grew more distant but I have since found people with the same kind of "weird" and social situations are no longer draining (at least with those people). It took a couple years but I can't recommend it enough.
So you're saying I should make friends with people who also intensely dislike people?
I would challenge that's not your authentic self. That's learned behavior.
If you have been constantly othered or made to feel out of place you will grow resentment towards certain people, and eventually people as a whole.
When everyone is authentic and kind, community happens. Consider people who LARP.. they likely would get mocked alone if a single one went to the mall, but in a community with shared expectations and values they have a lot of fun!
Learning one's authentic self is a journey. Learning boundaries (which allow you to stick to that authentic self) is also a journey. But I do recommend.
how to even start
I was just making a joke, but you're right- it's a learned coping mechanism from iteration after iteration of excruciating relationships.
I find most people are deeply selfish and lacking in awareness, and generally unobservant to the physical and metaphorical world around us. Eventually, it simply easier to withdraw and try to be content with online human interaction, and real life experiences with my family and my dog. Community comes with too many strings and demands that I present as someone not myself- at least in all such attempts to-date. When I was younger and it felt more necessary to participate, I dulled society with booze and weed. Now I prefer to see clearly, though perhaps still missing the clarity that others innately possess, in social scenarios.
I've noticed many introverts get exhausted socially because they're maintaining a "persona" in public. They're less drained with partners/close friends because they can just be themselves.
If I were myself in public I would have been lynched already.
It will be "did you see that ludicrous display last night ?" for me thank you very much
The weather is a very intense topic and should only be discussed by close friends who are very comfortable with one another. When making small talk with strangers and acquaintances, it's better to discuss lighter topics like politics, philosophy, and the arts. Going straight to heavy topics weather, holidays, and baby photos is extremely rude.
Sincerely, an autistic person.
Hello, have you noticed air oxygen level around 78% and a tasteful remainder of nitrogen? I quite enjoy the standard temperatuee and pressure as well.
Yeah, I totally relate. There's this thing in introverts, social battery, that is used to deplete quickly.
Holy what? S.......t?
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"Holist", as in "Looking at it as a whole, that was exhausting". You can see how they typoed and tried to correct it.
Holy slut
Like the virgin mary? Only virgin in recorded history to get pregnant....
Holy Salt ? One cannot tell.
Soot