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Kinda? It kinda permeated in through gay men, trans lesbians, and the kink community and developed a meaning of active partner with a dominant implication. So for example if I go down on my girlfriend before she returns the favor, it probably wouldn’t be called topping. But if I’m three fingers into a pillow princess as she calls me “Miss” you bet your ass that was topping. So it’s definitely more vibes based as versatility is assumed unless otherwise specified (and not being versatile is kinda rare)
It also can refer to who’s wearing the strap at the moment.
Cool. God I love the nomenclature so much. I think I'm just jealous, because we don't really have any fun terminology over here in Straight Vanilla Land. Explain Pillow Princess immediately.
Also, while I have you: can you put into words the appeal of a strap-on in a lesbian relationship/encounter? I'm all for it, but It just seems like more work to achieve what you could using your hands, and neither party is usually into dicks anyway. Is it a Dom thing? Better cardio workout?
Straight Pillow Princesses exist lol
I've always heard them referred to as starfish
I think the difference is that starfish just lie there, spread out, not really participating, and a pillow princess participates with words and moans, and their hands are roaming, and they're I think usually good receivers they just don't get on top and take a turn at the work part. They do motivate their partner to continue pleasing them though.
Sounds like everyone I know at work.
That’s fair, but I learned the term from a bi girl so makes sense