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For me, it was that the Internet never forgets and that you should never enter your real name. In my opinion, both of these rules are now completely ignored.

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[โ€“] [email protected] 58 points 1 month ago (26 children)

I'm a faithful follower of never using your real name in social parts of the internet. We don't need to know and we don't want to know. The only ones who would want to know are scammers or people wanting to give you a shitty time. I only use my real name online for people and places in where it's required like talking to agents from my bank, insurance .etc And very few friends know my real name through FB and the circle anyways.

Don't send nudes online to anybody. I know of some communities where people happily are flaunting it one moment then they make a post later whining about them being exploited or that they thought they were crafty hiding the nudes from someone they're married with. They delete it but they're too naive to think that what's already out there, has most likely been saved by hundreds by now, so you're fucked either way.

Another is, is that if you want to be understood, then you need to use proper spelling and grammar. I miss the days when you got kicked at because you used 'u' in replacement of 'you'. It's just two fucking extra letters you lazy asshole. These days saying stupid shit like; 'yah fr u tha fam' is somehow a complete sentence. No, I'm going to give you shit for it and if you want me to bother caring with what you have to say, fucking make some sense. I don't even get offended by insults when they're poorly spelled, it just tells me what kind of an inept moron you are.

[โ€“] [email protected] 6 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (5 children)

"Proper spelling and grammar" according to whom? Is the example you gave incorrect, or just a different dialect of English? AAVE, for example, often gets delegitimized because black people are supposedly less educated, can't speak "properly", whatever. But the thing about that is AAVE has its own unique grammar quirks, like habitual "be" as in "I be working".

As well, my own dialect has quirks that sound wrong to American ears, (such as the very start of this sentence) but if you try and correct me on them I will politely tell you to fuck an icicle.

[โ€“] [email protected] -4 points 1 month ago (4 children)

I don't care what your skin color is and you're the one bringing it up. Anybody from all walks of an ethnic background can possess the same levels of less intelligence with potential to sound like that.

You know, just because you tried sounding tough at the end, I'm going to be a deliberate ass by saying - fix your dialect. It's "I am working" not "I be working".

[โ€“] [email protected] 7 points 1 month ago (1 children)

It's "I am working" not "I be working".

From how it's used and understood, it's a lot closer to, "I am in a situation where I find myself working from time to time". "I am working" suggests you're doing it right now, "I be working" does not. This example is a unique, condensed way to convey a very specific idea that your idea of "proper English" cannot convey without a boatload of extra words.

If that's still bothersome to you, well, I guess have fun kicking that proverbial land-crawling fish back into the sea if that's where you get your jollies. IMO some prescriptivism is okay to get people on the same page, but the moment you use it as a cudgel to beat people who are very clearly already being understood, you're being a prude.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago

The fact that dialects of AAVE can convey meaning in a more complex manner than other dialects of English would never cross this genius' mind.

No, any differences exhibited in AAVE must be incorrect and spoken by the daft /s

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