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Also cooking takes time. I make dinner every night and even with previously prepped things it's usually 20-30min every evening. If I worked 2 jobs (12-16hr) I wouldn't have the time nor energy, either.
Now throw in a being a single parent!
I honestly don't know how people do it. When my wife's out of town for a week, nothing gets done beyond basic survival. I don't have time to do any other chores, and I only work 1 job.
I live alone and everything gets done. I cook meals that have 1/2 days of leftovers and leapfrog through them so I'm not eating the same thing all week. I grocery shop after work on Friday and clean house on weekends. It's not that difficult to manage. I guess kids would throw some complications on that though but I do have working out and hobby stuff after work that could be swapped with child care time.
I never had more time than living alone. Having a spouse and 2 kids is mayhem.
The kids make the things you mentioned impossible. I'm up an hour before them to get the day going. Then it's getting everyone together to get to work and daycare. Pick up kids from daycare after work, cook/have dinner, a little down time (like 30-60 minutes tops) which is spent with my kids, then it's baths and bed time routine for both of them. At this point, it is somewhere between 8 and 9, depending on how bedtime went and you haven't even cleaned up dinner or their lunch stuff. Now you can't leave your kids alone in the house, so you can't run any errands.
If you have practice or activities after daycare, push everything back another hour or 2.
It's a lot to do, which is how I dont understand how single parents do it every single day. I can handle it for a week, but a lot of routine chores don't happen. Things like a load of laundry goes in at 10p and I pass out and it sits wet until the next day.
What is your spouse doing during all this?
This was in reply to "when my wife's out of town for a week." And me talking about how i have no idea how single parents do it... So... not there. When she's home, the duties are split and it's manageable
Sorry I got confused by this line.