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I work a rather demanding job and I've constantly been feeling tired and underperformant compared to my colleagues for the past few months. I keep evading responsibilities or putting them off until the last minute.

Many people would kill to be where I am. Yet, I show up every day unmotivated.

There were several stressful years leading up to my current job and I'm wondering if I'm burnt out at this point or if I'm just not pulling my weight.

Edit: Thank you all for your support and guidance. I haven't given too many details here, but personal life has been moving along smoothly, chores get done, etc. But I definitely need to reconsider where I'm going with my job.

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He’s been giving mixed signals as well, such as dressing fancy all of a sudden, staring at me a lot, sometimes being nice and other times rude. I get that he’s unstable (obviously) and he generally acts like this with people he’s attached to but it still makes me wonder if he would treat me this way if he actually did have feelings for me.

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Looking around me:

  • I started seeing people who support capitalist companies instead of non-profits.
  • People losing their freedoms everywhere at high pace.
  • No one is taking any serious steps to stop climate change.
  • A lot of non-profits had seriously down scaled their operations in the last 5 years, most probably more non-profits will get hit hard this year.
  • On a relative scale, no one is fighting to change any of this.

Do we have any hope?

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never had 'em growing up, but now as an adult I want a pair

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I’ve been wondering—does anyone else kind of wish that Lemmy offered the option to search within individual communities?

For instance, you could go to a specific Lemmy community, tap on a search bar/icon, and type the name of a post, a topic, or even a comment to quickly find what you're looking for.

Reddit has this feature, and I find that it's super helpful for narrowing down results in large, active subreddits.

Do you think a community-specific search feature would enhance Lemmy’s usability, or do you prefer the current approach?

Would this even be technically possible under Lemmy’s architecture?

Curious to hear everyone’s thoughts!

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I have my own ideas, but I want to first see what you say before "clouding" the answers with my thoughts.

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I ate Sushi today

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I have OP magic. I can reverse time and take my money back from your future. There is no escape from OP Magic Lemmings.

You have 1 year. What do you do with this small sum of money?

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She does an unsettling giggle

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I decided to listen to Behind the Insurrections again and this time follow the sources Evans provides but... I can't find any place hosting the podcast episode that has the show notes which allegedly contained the sources?

My wider mission is to find the sources Evans used to build the episode but first I'm looking for a thesis Robert recommends the audience read which provides a summary of the business leaders' perspectives in the time leading up to the Business Plot. This essay, Evans says, is authored by Bradley Galca of the University of Albany.

Searching that name on Google and on DuckDuckGo comes up with nearly no results and nothing relating to the actual author. That is, a few LinkedIn profiles? Not what I'm looking for.

Does anyone here have a better place to search? (I know I don't know how to search anymore now that Google is useless)

And also, does anyone know where the source list for this episode went? Does it still exist on the internet?

Behind the Insurrections: The Business Plot: When Rich Fascists Almost Took Over America

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I'm both hungry and also have hiccups. Anyone have any ideas?

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republicada desde: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/24505846

Just uploaded it here because wouldn’t upload to Lemmy. If you could help me with the tropes you think it applies to, that would be great!

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Personally I get real mean to myself and call myself garbage. How about you?

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For example: Funzobot, News bot, and Finance bot.

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I (18nb/18m) have been friends with Karl (18m/maybe 19m now) since freshman year. We had been seated together in science class on the first day and really hit it off since then. Karl also has bad social anxiety and already had when I met him, so he only really talked to and trusted me.

Later on in freshman year, I had a friend group with a guy I’ll call Liam, and Karl asked if he could join it because he was looking for friends but was painfully shy so would only befriend Liam’s group if I was there with him. Karl and Liam got close pretty quickly.

I had unrequited feelings for Liam at the time, but thought nothing of it when he and Karl started to get close until Liam told me he was attracted to Karl, and that he was going to confess to him soon. Of course, I was happy for him but was also trying to hide my jealousy. When Liam confessed to Karl, he said yes, and for a while, I knew Karl was interested in him as he told me “I think I’m straight mostly, but I’d totally go out with Liam if he asked me out.”

Liam and Karl dated for the entirety of freshman year, but Karl is also quite Christian along with his family, so he always kind of had internalized homophobia which got worse through the years. Coupled with his anxiety, Liam said it never really felt like Karl was actually into him besides the fact that he would hug Liam and tell him he loved him. They broke up during the beginning of sophomore year because it didn’t feel to Liam like Karl liked him.

Perhaps this would be the first red flag, but I confessed to Liam eventually since we started to hit it off and he told me he was bi, and he said “Sorry, you’re not my type. I’m not into shy guys with… disabilities.” (I’m neurodivergent) I said okay and cried but was into him for all of freshman year and part of sophomore.

After they broke up, Karl and Liam were fine, but towards the end of junior year, started acting very weird towards Liam and avoiding him, so I thought they got into a fight. Liam then started to take photos of Karl and post them online along with his address or phone number depending on the post because “Karl is an ass and none of you should be friends with him”.

Karl never knew about this and I didn’t find out about the address thing until recently. I asked Karl at the beginning of senior year why he was acting this way towards Liam, and Karl told me “because Liam’s weird and we don’t have anything in common”. I did not further question anything.

Later on, Karl became somewhat attached to me and would spend a lot of time with me. He made a joke that I was his wife and that we should get married and live together, which I took as just that: a joke.

We started to hang out more, Karl would compliment me a lot (I’d do likewise) and we’d help each other with work, but we could never hang out because he had sports. Before I turned 18, I realized one night I couldn’t stop thinking about him and even had a dream about him. I suddenly found him sexy as hell.

I started questioning whether or not I liked him, and later realized, “Of course I do!”. I remember one time, which I posted about, he called me cute. I also realized he always seemed to treat me slightly differently than others, but I didn’t know if it was because of my condition or because of another reason. He would be very flirty and touchy with most people, for example, but never me.

He would sometimes be moody, somehow forget when I had partners in the past (he forgot I had a girlfriend), and get especially moody on the subject of romance. I also realized even though he was sad when I broke up with her, he started to compliment me more and be nice after the fact.

Now, he’s being moody again. When we work together, he’ll be nice and help me, but sometimes he’ll be very snippy and rude. He’ll boss me around, tell me he doesn’t like me, or treat me like his pet, but then he’ll be normal toward me. He also seems to have brought me up quite a few times to his parents and is not at all opposed to us hanging out when he can.

With his rude behavior, I don’t even know if I like him that way anymore, but I’m still curious as to how he MAY feel about me.

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Curiosity

Cultivated/dispositional interest in patterns, novel ideas and stimuli, people, and having a broadened model of the world + life

I affectionately call it "the 'Cure" (like yore)

Try to keep it to one word for the answer and feel free to add other details below, i know its a weird stipulation but play along ;)

Others


Empathy/Compassion

Positivity

Reliabillity

Honesty

Integrity

Humor

[

"Empathy/Compassion", "Positivity", "Reliabillity", "Honesty", "Integrity"

]

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By critical thinking, I suppose I mean more along the lines of evaluate this text or claim or media

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Curious what you all thought for what things like Lemmy, Revolt, Mastodon, PeerTube, Bluesky, Flashes, etc would need to be able to grow fast and well to get many users joining up

Because it's high time everyone drops all the way less than ideal platforms/apps/websites/news sources

I'll add on too:

Content creators that are engaging, clear, & entertaining explaining things with great videos showing Fediverse, etc stuff will help in various ways

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Also know of Fawlty Towers

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